HELP! How do I find time for me?

6:30 a.m.: that damn alarm clock is screaming in your ears like someone possessed! A new working day at 100 per hour. Breakfast, getting the kids ready for school, interspersing a little time to make yourself a little presentable, dropping the kids off at school, and before you’ve had time to say boom you’re off to your job at 8 a.m. And do it again when you get home. Day after day, week after week!

Does this scenario sound familiar to you? In this case, you urgently need time for yourself! But how to still find in all this agitation a little place for “me-time”? Because let’s face it, a little time for yourself is vital.

1. Be candid

Admit that sometimes you wish you had some time to yourself. This may well be the very first step: be honest with yourself. And then the rest will follow almost automatically. Your family and friends should also know that you would like to have a little more time for yourself. They can help you or, at the very least, support you in this process.

2. Do a “brain dump”

But yes, the tasks, missions or responsibilities that cross your mind one after the other. An email you still need to answer, someone you still need to call back, trash that still needs to be taken out, errands you still need to do, etc. Sometimes it’s just too much, and our head is about to explode with all we have yet to do! It’s times like these that you need a brain dump. Which means you write down everything you still need to do, in the form of lists. This way you get a clear overview of everything you still have to do.

3. Turn off your smartphone

That damn smartphone! It brings us nothing good and yet we cannot do without it. It is one of the tragedies of our time. Count how much time you waste on average per day strumming around aimlessly! But you’ll never guess what’s on the side of a smartphone: an on/off button! Creating more time for you also means spending less time on your smartphone. All the more so if you have just got up, forget your mobile phone a bit more.

4. Take a walk more often

It may be a bit of a cliché, but a little walk outside can do wonders. And if you don’t believe me, ask Beethoven, Charles Darwin, Steve Jobs or Mark Zuckerberg, all avid walkers. Walking helped/helps them to clear their minds, to relax. In other words: with a short stroll you put the race against time on hold for a while.

5. Learn to say “no”

It looks simple, but it is not at all. To say “no” is to set limits. If an appointment has no priority, you can simply decline it. This helps you already think about what is really important to you, in your professional or private life. And to anything that isn’t absolutely important, you can afford to say “no” more often!

It may very well be that you don’t say “no” easily, and that’s also completely normal. If you’re struggling with this, maybe you can start small, and build up gradually. Practice saying “no” to the little favors people ask of you. You don’t have to constantly answer present/present to everyone.

6. Set limits at work

Emails and phone calls after office hours? You decide. Agree limits with your employer. They will help you stay on track in your private life and perform better at work. It’s a win-win for everyone!

7. Exercise

“Mens sana in corpore sano”: a healthy mind in a healthy body. Your mental health therefore depends a lot on your physical health. The Romans understood this and it is still obvious today. Reason why sport can give you a solid helping hand to put your head at rest and therefore your schedule. A daily sports routine will already be very beneficial.

For example, find a jogging or cycling circuit in the area or push the door of the fitness club near you. If you prefer to stay at home, the website can help you. You will find all kinds of free home-workouts and programs there, as well as advice on how to get into the sport. But the most important thing is to find a sport that you like!


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